ON SEPTEMBER 23, 2005, the 46-year-old Victor de Bruijn and his 31-year-old wife of eight years, Bianca, presented themselves to a notary public in the small Dutch border town of Roosendaal. And they brought a friend. Dressed in wedding clothes, Victor and Bianca de Bruijn were formally united with a bridally bedecked Mirjam Geven, a recently divorced 35-year-old whom they'd met several years previously through an Internet chatroom. As the notary validated a samenlevingscontract, or "cohabitation contract," the three exchanged rings, held a wedding feast, and departed for their honeymoon.
The Netherlands was the first country in Europe to legalize gay marriages and now this. I am not at all surprised that this is happening in The Netherlands.
When Mirjam Geven first met Victor and Bianca de Bruijn, she was married. Yet after several meetings between Mirjam, her then-husband, and the De Bruijns, Mirjam left her spouse and moved in with Victor and Bianca. The threesome bought a bigger bed, while Mirjam and her husband divorced. Although neither Mirjam nor Bianca had had a prior relationship with a woman, each had believed for years that she was bisexual. Victor, who describes himself as "100 percent heterosexual," attributes the trio's success to his wives' bisexuality, which he says has the effect of preventing jealousy. (The Weekly Standard)
When gay marriages became legal in some European countries, and gay unions recognized in some states in the US, there were dire warnings from conservatives that that was the start down a slippery slope. After gay marriages, what next? Polygamy? Polyamory? Acceptance of adult and child relationships, which is pedophilia?
I am a conservative, and believe that the fabric that holds society together is the traditional family. When the traditional family breaks down, society breaks down with it.
In the US, the blended family (a couple living with their children from previous marriages) is a common feature, and there is a push for acceptance of the 2 male-parent or 2 female- parent families.
Proponents of homosexual couples raising children claim that children raised in such households fare no differently than children raised in traditional families. I strongly believe that "both mothers and fathers provide unique and irreplaceable contributions to the raising of children. Children raised in traditional families by a mother and father are happier, healthier, and more successful than children raised in non-traditional environments." (Source: Family Research Council)
It seems that in the US there is already the beginnings for a push for acceptance for multiple sex partners as equal to marriage.
University of Chicago Law Professor Elizabeth Emens is author of "Monogamy's Law: Compulsory Monogamy And Polyamorous Existence." In it, she argues that Americans should seriously reconsider their opposition to polygamy and polyamory (multiple sex partners as equal to marriage).Why am I not surprised? I think that step down the slippery slope has already been taken and it can only go further.
According to Emens, resistance to polyamory "may merely be an artifact of historical associations with patriarchal polygny…" She believes that most men and women are not actually monogamous anyway (witness adultery and high divorce rates), so why not rewrite our laws to sanction consensual relationships with multiple sex partners? (Source: Traditional Values Coalition)
Stanley Kurtz has an excellent article called The Marriage Mentality on National Review Online. It is quite the eye opener for those of us who think that gay marriages and polyamorous relationships have no bearings on the state of traditional marriages.